our culture decying

can we say that our culture is really decying or not ????

in some points really our culture decying . we are forgetting our rich values .
Western culture has dominated the Indian culture in every spheres of life in music in food habits , our dressing sense n all .


in dressing we cant say that our culture is decying but really our dressing sense is affected by Western style.

Our young generation no longer respect their elders.  

Social media is also responsible for this because today's generation want to spend their time on social media fb whatsapp n all rather then spending time with their relatives and family members . Fake relationships are taking place of real relationships,

We all are responsible for this because we are not teaching our kids our culture . We are also following western cultures .

That's it. 

who irritate you ??

i have think about this so many times and finally i realise that the person who is not close to you his thoughts his masseges irritate you more . because we don't want to talk with that person. To spend the time with the person like this is difficult . 

How to Deal With Friends Who Are Emotionally Irritating

Steps

1. Decide just how emotionally irritating this person is, and if you're truly willing to accept them as they are. If you're ticked off because they don't clean up after themselves or still haven't paid you back for last weekend's dinner-out, you can probably handle that. If they are truly wearing you down and you feel your friendship is entirely one-sided, ask yourself if maintaining a relationship is worth it. Being a loyal friend is invaluable, but you must not put yourself in any position that compromises your emotional health and stability. One-sided relationships always, always crash and burn. Take an honest look at how this person makes you feel, and if you realize they're not good for you, it's always best to cut it off as early as possible.

2.If you've decided this relationship can continue, give yourself breathing room. There's nothing worse than spending incessant time with a friend or family member that makes you want to rip your hair out. Tell your aggravating friend that you value your alone time. If they care about you they'll respect that.

3.Focus on the good stuff. If you have a friend who ALWAYS talks about herself, her plans for the future, her fiance, her childhood, what she ate for lunch... She often repeats the same stories over, and over, and over, and over. Try to think of the all the times she's surprised you with Starbucks or called you to wish you a good morning when she knew you were having a rough time and you know she's your best friend for a very good reason.

4.Communicate! What a brilliant idea! Say, "Hey, it would really help if you'd drive this time. I tend to spend a lot of money on gas when we're together." Chances are, they don't realize what their irritating quirks are, or they do recognize them and just don't know how to fix them. This may even open a conversation about what annoys them about you. Give them a gentle heads up and watch how swiftly their behavior improves. However, if it doesn't improve, talk to them once more. If your situation stays just as unbearable, time to hit the road. You can do better.

5. Be mindful of balance. If your friend didn't acknowledge your birthday for the past three years, don't go all out on theirs with a huge surprise party, fancy dinner, and expensive present. You'll just be more disappointed when the next year rolls around and they give you a pair of socks. Basically, don't go out of your way if you know they'd never go out of theirs.

6.Put yourself in their shoes. What is the underlying reason for their irksome habits? You don't necessarily need to bust out your old college psychology text book--though you could come up with some interesting theories--but just think about their life. Let's say the aforementioned friend has a very overbearing mother. A Stage Mom to the max, if you will. Perhaps your friend's mother is constantly poking and prodding her about her weight, her hair, and if she's being social enough. Maybe she talks about herself so much because it's nice to have someone finally listen to her and how she feels. Understanding your friend's situation can make it easier for you to cope with her resulting behavior.

7.Be a friend to yourself. So cheesy but so helpful. Don't let yourself get walked all over! Learn how to say no. It's such an empowering feeling. Remember, no one has control over your actions but you. Know your limit. Give yourself time and space. Stand up for yourself when necessary.

8..Opt for littler ways to be a friend. Send a "thinking of you and hoping you're having a good day!" text rather than buying dinner every night. Your needy friend will feel affection from you and may lighten up on pressuring you to buy dinner or take them to a movie.

9.

Kate Beckinsale

Kathrin Romary "Kate" Beckinsale (born 26 July 1973) is an English actress. After some minor television roles, she made her film debut in Much Ado About Nothing (1993) while still a student at Oxford University. She then appeared in British costume dramas such as Prince of Jutland (1994),Cold Comfort Farm (1995), Emma (1996), and The Golden Bowl (2000), in addition to various stage and radio productions. She began to seek film work in the United States in the late 1990s and, after appearing in small-scale dramas The Last Days of Disco (1998) and Brokedown Palace (1999), she had a break-out year in 2001 with starring roles in the war film Pearl Harbor and the romantic comedy Serendipity. She built on this success with appearances in the biopic The Aviator (2004) and the comedy Click (2006).

Beckinsale became known as an action star following an appearance in 2003's Underworld and has since starred in many action films, including Van Helsing (2004), Underworld: Evolution (2006), Whiteout (2009), as well as Contraband, Underworld: Awakening, and Total Recall (all in 2012). She also makes occasional appearances in smaller dramatic projects such as Snow Angels (2007), Winged Creatures (2008), Nothing but the Truth (for which she earned a Critic's Choice Award nomination in 2008), and Everybody's Fine (2009). She will next appear in the legal drama The Trials of Cate McCall.

Born and raised in London, Beckinsale's parents are actor Richard Beckinsale (1947–1979) and actress Judy Loe. She had an eight-year relationship with Welsh actor Michael Sheen from 1995 until 2003; they have one daughter. She married American film director Len Wiseman in 2004 and relocated to Brentwood, Los Angeles. Publications such as Esquire and People have repeatedly included Beckinsale in their annual rankings of the world's sexiest and most beautiful women. She has worked occasionally as a model in television and print campaigns to promote Gap denim, Diet Coke, Absolut Vodka, and Lux shampoo.

When women become more successful than men

While you may be at the peak of your career, your personal life may be going for a toss. The trick lies in 'not bringing office home' and spending quality time with your man in spite of a busy schedule.

Women are becoming more independent and professionally successful than they were a generation or two ago. That's brilliant but it can come with baggage. A recent study revealed that in 39 of the 50 top urban markets, women are making more than their male peers. But as women work their way up that career ladder and begin to out-earn their husbands or partners, cheating is on the rise.
While it feels great to constantly climb the career ladder and earning good money, the reality is that at some point you may encounter a guy who's intimidated by your success. According to new research, when a man is completely financially dependent on his female partner, he is five times more likely to cheat than men who contribute an equal amount to the partnership.
Traditionally, men used to bring home a majority of, if not the entire household income while many women had the option of being housewifes and raising kids. "Men typically played the role of providers and women that of nurturers. We do not see this in our culture today as the traditional gender roles have become blur in relationships and women have become a lot more independent," says relationship expert Dr Rajan Bhonsle.
As female breadwinners take on their role as protector and nurturer, men feel that their gender identity is being threatened. Seeing their partners slogging hard, they may stray. This shift to equalitarian partnerships hits their ego and may further lead to infidelity. 
Before you face a relationship failure, here are a few tips that will help you prioritise and strike a balance between the two meaningful aspects of your life - career and love. 
Know what you want:
The key to a successful relationship is to be clear about what you want. As a career-oriented woman, it's probably even more important to be clear about the type of guy you would want to spend your life with. Make a list of the top five qualities you're looking for in a potential partner. While doing this activity, ask yourself the following questions: Does equal or greater earning power of the partner power matter to me? Would I be willing to date someone who makes less than me but is beautiful at heart?
Creating unrealistic expectations is a crime:
While you may be capable of buying your car, go on a holiday with your girlfriends and shop from your favourite branded stores, it is silly having unrealistic expectations. Thinking that a guy who owns a smaller house than you won't keep you happy, will leave you being single for long. What's important is who he is as an individual. "If he treats you with love and care and shares similar ambitions in life as you do, he may possibly prove to be a loyal and a lifelong partner," says Bhonsle.
Let him woo you:
Dating a woman who enjoys greater career successis likely to threaten a man's sense of self worth. But it's not as if it's the end. They can quickly find other ways to feel worthy but that is only if you give them a chance to feel the same. For example, until you know his level of emotional maturity, don't take him to expensive restaurants or buy him expensive gifts. Let him plan outings and pay for movie tickets. Appreciate his efforts through minor gestures regardless of how big or small they are.
Make him feel important:
The core lies in the words appreciate and reward. Make sure he maintains a higher self-esteem. "Compliment him when he undertakes non-traditional gender roles and performs them well," advices Hingorrany. Moreover, if he's not the primary breadwinner, entrust him responsibilities like managing finances. Also, indulge in actions that remind him he's all man in bed.

Dr. A.P.J. abdulo kalam

If a country is to be corruption free and become a nation of beautiful minds, I strongly feel there are three key societal members who can make a difference. They are the father, the mother and the teacher.
Abdul Kalam 

8 Success Secrets From Female Leaders

What does it mean to be a successful woman? For years, men have set the parameters of success, generally measuring it in terms of status or money -- title, salary, net worth -- to determine how they measure up. But as women increasingly take their seats at the table, they are helping broaden that definition of success.

And who can better define a female-friendly version of success than the women who have reached the tops of their fields? We looked at the experts and uncovered the success secrets of eight inspirational and accomplished women:

1. Oprah Winfrey, Talk Show Host (The Oprah Winfrey Show), Queen Of AMedia Empire

Oprah is a woman so successful that mentioning her last name in casual conversation is unnecessary. Oprah has spoken about the secret to success before,writing on her own website, Oprah.com, that:

What I know for sure is that if you want to have success, you can't make success your goal. As my friend Wintley Phipps, the gospel singer and minister, once told me, the key is not to worry about being successful but to instead work toward being significant -- and the success will naturally follow.

But Oprah has another trick for success as well: she meditates. Winfrey said of one specific experience with meditation:

I walked away feeling fuller than when I'd come in. Full of hope, a sense of contentment, and deep joy. Knowing for sure that even in the daily craziness that bombards us from every direction, there is -- still -- the constancy of stillness. Only from that space can you create your best work and your best life.

2. Kay Koplovitz, The First Female CEO Of A Television Network

Kay Koplovitz is a legend in the television industry. Not only was she the first female CEO of any television network, but she is responsible for convincing cable operators that consumers would pay for sports programming. She is also the founder of the USA Network, the Sci-Fi Channel and USA Networks International. So how did this living legend achieve such great success? She told The Huffington Post in May of this year:

You really have to put one foot in front of the other and start on your journey. You have to be comfortable that you don't know exactly how you are going to get to the results that you want to see. There is going to be experimentation along the way. And you have to be comfortable that you can think your way through and actually execute your way through to the desired outcome. I expected to be successful. I wanted to be successful.

3. Alexandra Wilkis-Wilson, Co-Founder And CMO Of Gilt Groupe

Sometimes the people the world considers to be high-achieving define success beyond the accomplishments the public sees, and Alexandra Wilkes-Wilson is one such woman. Back in 2011, Wilkes-Wilson told Laura Brown of Harper's Bazaar that:

Success can be defined a number of ways but one way is to really be at peace with yourself, with the decisions you’ve made professionally and personally. For me, I think it’s always hard to establish goals and work towards those goals, whether it’s personal or professional goals ... get as close as you can to them -- if you achieve them, fantastic, if you don’t get as close as you wanted to then learn from that process.

4. Kanya King, Music Industry Entrepreneur, Founder And CEO Of TheMOBO Awards

Taking risks is often paramount to achieving success. That is something that Kanya King, who was recently included on BBC Radio 4's Woman's Hour Power List, knows something about. She said in the list's accompanying short documentary:

My mother was very risk averse and so any time I wanted to do anything entrepreneurial she would tell me 101 reasons why I shouldn’t do it. And so for a while, I used to listen to her as any good daughter should do, but after a while I realized this is my life, actually, and even though my mother was my biggest role model, her life is not what I aspired to have. So I realized if I wanted to be anywhere and to make a difference, I needed to take risks, sometimes they'd work and sometimes they wouldn't.

5. Heather Rabbatts, Businesswoman, Lawyer, First Female Director OfThe Football Association

Heather Rabbatts, who has changed career paths multiple times over the years, ranging from political to entrepreneurial to her current position in the sports industry, also targets taking risks as the root of her achievements. In the same aforementioned BBC Radio 4 Woman's Power Hour documentary, Rabbatts said:

“I think I’ve always felt that there was something quite exciting about taking risks. And there’s a great saying that you only learn when you are at risk and I’m fascinated by both risk and learning, so that has led me to take jobs that people would think ‘you can’t do that, that’s just impossible.’ No it won’t be.

6. Ursula Burns, Madam Chairman And CEO Of Xerox, The First Female African-American CEO Of A Fortune 500 Company

But beyond considering what women can personally do to achieve their goals, it's valuable to remember that who we surround ourselves with also impacts our achievements. When Urusla Burns was asked about her secret to success at Catalyst’s annual awards conference earlier this year, she pointed to her husband, who is 20 years her senior. The Wall Street Journal reported that Burns said that when she met her husband, "He had already gone through this ‘growing up’ stuff,” and that when he was ready to retire, she was in the prime of gearing up her career. “So the secret is to marry someone 20 years older,” she quipped to the audience.

7. Arianna Huffington, Chair, President And Editor In Chief Of The Huffington Post Media Group

Although it seems counterintuitive, the key to success can often be found in failure -- or at least, that's what Arianna Huffington believes. She told Inc. earlier this year:

My mother used to call failure a stepping-stone to success, as opposed to the opposite of success. When you frame failure that way, it changes dramatically what you're willing to do, how you're willing to invent, and the risks you'll take ... In my own life, a key component of whatever successes I've had has been what I've learned from my failures.

8. Joanna Coles, Editor In Chief, Cosmopolitan

Sometimes, being successful isn't about what you do in the office at all, but rather how you spend your time away from your desk. Joanna Coles insists that taking time off on weekends to reboot is essential to her success. She told the New York Times last November:

I never do any work on a Sunday, unless there’s a crisis. Saturday and Sunday are my days for restocking my brain, and I find if I don’t do that and I work Saturday and Sunday, I get tired. I like having Saturday and Sunday as a punctuation mark at the end of the week.